and it’s amazing
but wait there’s more
omg and then
"Why, is your nose bigger than your dick?" OMFG so good!
Most men don’t rape, but most men do perpetuate, defend, and participate in these machinations of male supremacy, without which rape would be rare, if it existed at all.
Most men don’t rape, yet they see to it that the multi-billion dollar a year pornography industry flourishes; that the sexual objectification of women remains ubiquitous; that rape is trivialized, romanticized, promoted through movies, TV, music, hate-radio, news media, academia, and publishing houses. They see to it that men who rape have little to fear, while women who harm or kill rapists are sent to prison or insane asylums.
Most men don’t rape, yet historically they have denied women basic civil rights, excluded them from power, erased them through language, passed laws requiring them to wear movement-restrictive clothing, institutionalized female servitude, theorized female inferiority — all of which amounts to men’s metaphorical rape of women, and all of which creates the circumstances that make physical rape possible.
Most men don’t physically rape. If they did, the social machinery behind rape might collapse. If most men raped, women might no longer trust men. Women might find little reason to collaborate with men’s sexism. They might identify men as their enemy. They might fight back against men, effectively and with purpose.
Most men do not want to rape. But most men want to keep the rape-system in place, regulated and functional. Natural selection, which is based on competition among males, does not cause men to cooperate with one another to oppress women as a class. Natural selection does not cause men to regulate violence against women and institutionalize male supremacy. Rather, men built and participate in the rape-system because of what it gives them: class power over women, including sexual access to women, constant assurance that they are superior to women, and a violence-based social context that allows for the sexual domination and possession of women they love. —
Men and the History of Rape, by Adriene Sere
I have never found myself sexually attracted to men, but I’ve definitely been in love with some men in my life. I didn’t want to fuck them and didn’t want them to fuck me, but I cared so much for them and they cared for me. And though we didn’t touch sexually, we really appreciated touch. We were always hugging each other, giving each other knowing looks on the court or when motherfuckers started acting crazy in public. This is love. But we don’t call it love enough. Men can have those kind of relationships without a reliance on dissing women. I think a lot of men and a lot of emcees add the dissing of women to their care for men because they’re afraid of being seen as queer. But that’s bullshit. If you don’t wanna fuck men, you don’t wanna fuck men. It doesn’t mean that you can’t fall in love with men. I don’t know why but I never wanted to kiss my best friend, Ray Gunn. I don’t know why but curvy bodies excite parts of me. I don’t know why. But I know that I’ve been in love with some men and some women and while I’ve had sex with some of the women I was in love with, I’ve also not had sexual contact at all with other women I’ve fallen in love with. You see what I’m saying. So yeah, dissing women doesn’t need to be a part of loving men. — “All Things Considered”: Conversation with Kiese Laymon (via aminatou)
The 10 commandments of Logic
Um everyone on tumblr could use this actually.
Let’s take a moment to talk about this. I mean, because first off, “Tell cars not to hit kids.” Well, yeah, we do that all the fucking time, idiot. Ever seen signs like these?
We have classes and signs and laws about it, and people are constantly reminded. So your argument only works if we put up signs everywhere reminding assholes not to rape. But you’d rather talk about how rape victims have it coming to them.
But the dumbest part of this crap? Roads exist for cars to drive on. Children need to be careful to cross the street because they’re entering into an environment that exists specifically for something that is dangerous to them. The only way this shit is a valid comparison is if you think that bars, parties, and the world in general exists specifically for men to have sex with women. And I gotta break it to the guys who support this stupidity- your dicks are not that important. So knock off this bullshit and stop excusing rapists.
God fucking bless this commentary
Everything above, and:
Kids don’t live full-time in the middle of a road. They have to cross roads now and then, but they spend the vast majority of their time in schools or houses or playgrounds where there aren’t any cars.
But since the majority of sexual assaults are by someone the victim knows and often by partners, there’s really no option to “get out of the road” and go to a place there’s zero risk of sexual assault. (I mean, you could live alone your whole life and only go out for necessities and never have visitors, but that’s a rather larger and more depressing lifestyle commitment than playing in the yard instead of the street.)
If you think that sexual assaults only happen at frat parties and in dark alleys, then I guess this sort of makes sense? It’s still wrong, because we really shouldn’t be so complacent about “oh yeah, those places have rapists like swamps have mosquitos, nothing we can do about it”, but that doesn’t matter because it’s not true. Your average dark alley doesn’t have anything creepier than some really stinky dumpsters, because most sexual assaults take place in people’s homes.
I’d really like to know how exactly women are expected to “look both ways” in this context.